I predicted today would be a long one, and I was right! We left for the orphanage at 8am and got back around 5pm. It’s 5:30, and James is already asleep. We have another early day tomorrow since we leave at 8am for James’ TB test, so I’ll be heading to bed early too.
It was actually a great day in terms of James letting me hold him more. We’re mostly just letting him choose Joel all the time so that he gets comfortable, but I am in charge of giving him food (since he loves it so much) and Joel usually has to be the bad guy when we take something away. Right before we headed down to breakfast, Joel had to pull James out of the stroller, which he loves, so then James put his arms up to me and let me carry him all the way to breakfast! It made me so happy.
After breakfast we began the 2.5 hour ride to James’ old orphanage. It’s actually a Social Welfare Institute, so some elderly people live there too in a different section. It was so nice to get out of the city and away from the smog. We got to see some tree-covered hills, water, blue skies, and feel the sun on our faces. It made me a little homesick. Anyway, we got there just as James’ foster mom arrived, and she came and picked him up and took him inside. She kind of just left us standing by the car in her dust. :) We went inside and were able to ask her some questions about what he likes and his routine, and she brought some of his favorite treats. This was one of the lows today for my bonding with James because he remembered he already has a mama that he loves. He did not want me to sit next to him on the couch when his foster mom was on the other side (he literally pushed me away), but he would ask Joel to come sit by his side. I ended up feeling a little sorry for his foster mom because it is so obvious that she loves James and misses him, but when we all stood up to go, he ran behind Joel’s leg when she came to give him a hug. At least we know he didn’t want to go home with her, but I imagine that hurt her feelings. He did look sad when he saw her outside going to her car, but she wouldn’t have seen that.
Next we got to take a tour of the orphanage and see where he went to school, played, and slept. His teachers all came running yelling his name and demanding hugs and kisses. We were told several times that he was everyone’s favorite boy. We didn’t get to take any photos of the room where he slept because it was naptime, and we weren’t allowed to take photos of any other kids. The bed that was his was already filled with another child since there were kids sleeping two to a bed (toddler-sized beds). James did let me hold him a few times during the tour, so I think he recovered pretty quickly from seeing his foster mom. When they’d ask him to run to mama, he’d come to me, so that was great. Of course, I did hear over and over and over again about how he’s a baba’s (or daddy’s) boy. Yes, people, I know!!
They served us a huge and quite delicious meal, and then we headed out to see his finding spot. We shot a quick photo and then headed home because we were tired, and it was a long trip back. Now we’re here and will be heading to bed early again for another busy day. After the test tomorrow, we’re going to the tea market, and I’m pretty excited. Our guide says it has more tea than the entire US. We’ll see!